“Another year shot to hell.”
That was my answer, way back on New Year’s Eve, 1970, when someone asked me how I felt about the just-finished year. I was 24 and almost terminally depressed — disappointed in love, life, and myself.
What a difference 43 years make. (I never said I was a fast learner.)
Here is what I have learned since then, and why I will never waste another year on regret and disappointment:
- Give yourself a break. “If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not doing anything.” –my mother. Failure is no big deal. Happens all the time. To everyone.
- Try. You can forgive yourself for failure but not for not trying.
- Don’t settle for Less, even if you have to do Without until More shows up. (Four marriages. I rest my case.)
- Don’t mistake Hollywood scripts for real life. Write your own script. (See #3)
- There are all kinds of Love — romantic, family, friendship. They are equally important and valuable. Don’t sacrifice one for the other.
- Your choices affect everyone around you. Think before you leap.
- Don’t just sit there — learn something.
- Practice. Become really, really good at what you love doing.
- Trust your instincts.
- Know your strengths.
- Trust, but verify. Everyone lies, if only to themselves.
- You are not wrong just because someone else thinks you are.
- You are not right just because you think you are.
- Be kind — to yourself as well as to others. Others include: people, animals, and Mother Earth.
- Your purpose in life is to be happy. That’s it.
- Happiness is about more than just you. It’s about the Golden Rule and the Ten Commandments too. (Even if you’re not religious.)
- Life is complicated.
- Let it go. Anger and regret are good for awhile, to help us protect ourselves and take responsibility. After that, they’re a waste of time and energy.
- Learn to forgive. Include yourself in your forgiveness.
- It’s about compassion.
- And gratitude.
- Some things can’t be fixed. You can’t fix people, but you can love them anyway.
- Just be sure to keep strong boundaries, and…
- Hope for the best.
Wishing you a wise, peaceful, and very happy 2014.
Love you,
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Lavonne,, Happy New Year,,Are you going to the RTR..I was hopeful that I would be there, But I will Not this time..But going to keep working towards that Goal..But hey, I am going to The Big Easy { aka New Orleans } for a few days..Then meander towards Florida..Old Guy
Wise words!